5 Reasons I Don’t Think Girls Should Only Wear Dresses
Y’all know I’m not a traditional Christian in some respects … and in others, I’m super traditional! Today I’d like to tackle one of the subjects which has come up in my life a lot and which spatters the internet, churches, and basically anywhere you look: modesty.
I don’t want to take on all of modesty (that would be unbelievably difficult without offending 5 bajillion people on both sides of the argument), but I do want to address the great pants vs. dresses debate.
So let me give you my reasons why I wear practically nothing but pants … and at the end of this post, you’ll see my reasons why YOU need to make this decision for yourself (or in accordance to your family’s rules).
5 Reasons I Don’t Think Girls Should Only Wear Dresses
1: If it’s immodest for women, it’s immodest for men.
I’m sorry, but the anatomical differences between men and women aren’t great enough in that particular area that women need to have a separate dress code than men.
Obviously men and women should have different requirements for modesty on the top half (duh!), but … not so much the bottom one? 😅
Sure, women are a little curvier, sometimes, but … if you feel that’s an issue, not all pants are form-fitting (though I prefer them to be; too much material makes me antsy).
2: There’s no definite claim in the Bible to say otherwise.
God does want men to dress as men and women to dress as women (Deuteronomy 22:5), but nowhere is it given exactly what makes clothes male and female. That depends entirely on societal constraints.
Actually, when these laws were made, both men and women wore similar clothing! Men’s were a bit simpler, but they were both robe-like thingys with tunics and whatnot.
And you know what? Nowadays, we consider pants to be the property of both men and women.
3: Let’s not be set apart in any more areas than we have to.
We Christians HAVE to be separate from the world! We have to have different morals, different standards, and, most important of all, a different God.
But, while it’s important to be set apart, it’s also important to minister to and not scare people off with our, well, weirdness. (Not that there’s a thing with being weird … as long as that’s not interfering with God’s desire for us to read people!)
“When in Rome, do as the Romans” is a worldly standard, but in some ways, it applies to Christians. Obviously because the world is killing babies and sleeping around, we shouldn’t.
But if you go to minister to Africans and refuse to participate in regular old traditions which have nothing to do with morality, you’re turning them off … same goes with our dress!
4: To me, it’s just another form of legalism.
Christians suffer from a very wicked sin most of the rest of the world doesn’t struggle with quite as much: legalism.
This is a kind of pride centered around our desire to be different and sinless and make rules where there aren’t. The Pharisees did the exact same thing; they took the Old Testament laws and made another and another.
Christians, in short, want more rules! More regulations, more barriers. Yet Jesus Christ has set us free from all that.
So let’s not make up rules, y’all. God already gave us some great ones, and we can’t even keep those! We have to rely on His grace for everything.
Let’s focus not on our inability to meet God’s standards but rather the fact that He’s given us a free pass despite our sins!
5: It’s so impractical.
I know you can do anything in a dress—lots of people have told me that—but it sure is harder! I hate wearing dresses, and it’s a pain to even wear one once a week for church.
It’s incredibly difficult to do all the things I want to do in a dress! Probably, in time, I’d learn how, but I don’t want to, and I don’t intend to. (Also, as a farm-girl, can you imagine?!)
(If you’re a dress-wearing farmgirl, you probably can imagine …)
I’m only comfy in jeans and a t-shirt! And I would call myself modest, more so than most, and I think I could go a lot further than I go without even touching the boundaries of modesty, honestly.
Now for the disclaimers.
- If your parents say you must wear dresses all the time, and you are under 18/living in their home, wear nothing but dresses.
- If you personally feel more comfortable doing so, wear nothing but dresses.
- If you feel that wearing dresses makes you more modest or you feel that the Spirit is leading you to, wear nothing but dresses.
Does it matter?
Not to me. I’d say wear whatever you want to wear—though, of course, consulting God about every little thing is definitely the way to go!
If it matters to you, if it makes you feel better about yourself or more right with God, then it’s right. Convictions are important! Never abandon yours.
In the end, I’m not saying, “THOU SHALT WEAR PANTS.” No, I’m not saying that at all! I’m saying, to me, wearing pants just doesn’t matter (for the reasons outlined above), and for you, it may matter!
So no, I won’t get into debates over this in the comments. I’ve read all the Bible verses supposedly associated with this debate, I’ve listened to all the arguments about modesty and femininity … and I disagree!
But is it important enough to me to argue about it with you, my darling friend (or some random person off the internet who I don’t care two sticks about)? No. It is not.
In summary, wear what you feel is right for you to wear … and I’ll wear what I feel is right for me to wear.
Not because you or I want to rebel, or because the opposite of it would be a sin for anyone else. But because it’s a personal conviction (or because no such conviction exists).
Well, thanks for reading that! Again, no offense intended … I’m not telling you how to live; I’m sharing my decisions about my own life with you. You’re welcome to comment your personal beliefs and discuss them. 😄
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When her ex-husband reappears in her life determined to spend more time with their child, Adele Collier allows him to take Judy to France for the summer. As the summer goes by, an internal battle rages in Adele’s heart. Can she give up her glamorous lifestyle to win her daughter’s heart?
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Thanks so much and see y’all Monday!
What are your thoughts on this article and my controversial opinions and whatnot? 😝 Do you enjoy this type of post or do my rantings get boring?
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